Does etiquette change with the times?
Who teaches us etiquette? Our parents? Grandparents? Teachers?
Or are we self taught by searching the internet or by reading books?
What does it stand for?
RSVP stands for “ Répondez s'il vous plaît”
And it stands for "reply please" or "please respond".
When it is included on an invitation it means "please let me know if you can come."
Just a simple phone call …"Hello Agnes, I can’t come. But thanks for asking.”
Or an email… "Hi Harry, Just a short note to let you know we are unable to come. But thanks for asking us!"
Or in person…."Hi, Just wanted to let you know we can’t come. We are already committed to other plans. But thanks for inviting us! Perhaps another time."
Or sometimes it’s as simple as checking off a box and mailing your reply in a self addressed envelope already provided by the host or hostess.
Just letting someone know whether or not you will or will not attend is called being courteous. And a little courtesy goes along way. It means having or showing good manners, being polite. It also helps the host or hostess get a headcount of those attending so he or she can provide enough food and drinks or seating for everyone.
So, is following proper etiquette a matter of social acceptance?
When a person delays an answer to an RSVP are they afraid of commitment? Are they waiting for something better to come along?
What are the consequences of not responding?
What are the consequences of not responding to an RSVP and showing up?
Food for thought. ~Ames